your kiddin me vic???
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please tell me some of your encounters!!!
hahahahahahahahahhahaha

it ought to give me a chuckle!!
:shaky:

At the gay cruise protest I had a taxi driver try to pick me up. He thought I was a tourist woman. When I made it clear I was not a tourist he tried again. When I told him I had male plumbing he said you are one of them transsexuals and chick with a D***. I said yes and he told me he had always wanted to try it with a transsexual. I told him sorry not interested. He said come I will pay you. I told him not interested. I walked away within 10 min. He came up and asked again. I told him he would have to find someone else.

1 night out at Endangered Species (I would go once a month to keep check on friends) I would sit down at the end of the Bar and chat with one of the owners while having a coke one the rocks or 2.
A gorges lesbian came up to me and wanted me to come home with her and her girlfriend. When I told her I hand male plumbing she said no way. She said how is it you have breasts. I said to her "Hun I am a bit over weight as you can see and all I have to do is pull the up and together for the illusion. Besides the fact I have a bit more breast than most male anyway. "
She walked away dumb founded. Both she and her girlfriend came back and snuggled up to me and wanted to feel to see if I had male plumbing I said 1 touch and that’s it ok. (I don't know why I just felt they really needed to see for them selves). After that they came back when I was on my second coke and said they wanted to feel my breast. Well that was easy I just pulled out 1 of my breast forms (the good ones that feel like the real thing) and put in her hand. Did that ever blow them away it was such a joke we all had a good laugh. But they came back again and the girlfriend said they decided to ask me to come home with them anyway as I was so much fun that what was between my legs did not matter. I said I am sorry but I have to disappoint you I am married to a wonderful woman who I love dearly. The girlfriend said she is the luckiest woman in the world. These 2 girls were beauties to boot. I see them every once in a while and they ask if I have changed my mind yet.
I get a lot of women that ask, surprisingly more women than men.
There are more but that’s enough.

Just a question Vicky. If you could choose to be a woman, ie. biological woman with all the plumbing and everything else, would you choose that, or would you chose to remain transgendered? Just curious, cause I dont have a grasp on the transgendered mentality.

I appreciate your replies and responses although some of them have kinda gotten away from the point! :walk: I think if nothing else we must remember that everyone inevitably are products of their environment. For children this is even more important as with today's media, internet and everything that comes along with the "20th century revolution" alot of traditional values and beliefs have been replaced and most children are left wondering who they are and exactly who they should be!
On a daily basis I encounter substance abuse, gender identity conflicts, abuse and other cases. My job is not to judge or impose my values or beliefs on any person but to help in any way I can to deal with the problem at hand. We often tend to think of abuse as simply sexual but verbal ,and emotional abuse can be even more damaging. We all should be trying to install in our young people a sense of self esteem and self worth so that they truly believe that they are worthy of only the best that life has to offer ! With this base I truly believe everything else will fall into place.

I appreciate your replies and responses although some of them have kinda gotten away from the point! :walk: I think if nothing else we must remember that everyone inevitably are products of their environment. For children this is even more important as with today's media, internet and everything that comes along with the "20th century revolution" alot of traditional values and beliefs have been replaced and most children are left wondering who they are and exactly who they should be!
On a daily basis I encounter substance abuse, gender identity conflicts, abuse and other cases. My job is not to judge or impose my values or beliefs on any person but to help in any way I can to deal with the problem at hand. We often tend to think of abuse as simply sexual but verbal ,and emotional abuse can be even more damaging. We all should be trying to install in our young people a sense of self esteem and self worth so that they truly believe that they are worthy of only the best that life has to offer ! With this base I truly believe everything else will fall into place.


we....at least im sorry annalease....sometimes these things take a course of their own! :dancer:
but we truly appreciate..at least i truly apreciate your efforts!
:D :D

question?
is there any leading family therapists here in the bahamas, who is doing research into the development of the bahamian family?
not really on your topic, but was just there in my mind, and you seem to be an authority on matters like this!
correct me if im wrong!

Just a question Vicky. If you could choose to be a woman, ie. biological woman with all the plumbing and everything else, would you choose that, or would you chose to remain transgendered? Just curious, cause I dont have a grasp on the transgendered mentality.

In an instant no second thought I would choose to be a woman. I pray everyday for this to happen. I pray everyday for one or the other to match. So I can fit into society.
I also say that if there were a pill to make this go away I would take 2. Living with the pain and fear of the people that hate because you are different is great and very real.
But I also know that this is a gift from the Creator. I see life very differently than so called normal people. So it is who I am.
Let me tell you a small part of my life.
When I was young 9 or 10 I guess. The time when a child knows the difference between boy and girl but not yet sexually active. Guess preteens
I was told that if you can kiss your elbow you could become a girl (if you were a boy and vice versa.) Well I hook my arm in a stair railing and pushed against it so hard I almost did it. Can you imagine the pain I was in. But I remember crying because I failed to kiss my elbow.


Belive me when I say this movie was targeted for transgender
The Movie Mulan
Reflection
Vocals: Lea Salonga
Running time: 2:27

Look at me
I will never pass for
a perfect bride
Or a perfect daughter
Can it be
I'm not meant to play
this part?
Now I see
that if I were truly
to be myself
I would break my
family's heart

Who is that girl I see
staring straight
back at me?
Why is my reflection someone
I don't know?
Somehow I cannot hide
Who I am
Though I've tried
When will my reflection show
who I am inside?
When will my reflection show
who I am inside?
Also transgender goes both ways male to female and female to male.

I appreciate your replies and responses although some of them have kinda gotten away from the point! :walk: I think if nothing else we must remember that everyone inevitably are products of their environment. For children this is even more important as with today's media, internet and everything that comes along with the "20th century revolution" alot of traditional values and beliefs have been replaced and most children are left wondering who they are and exactly who they should be!
On a daily basis I encounter substance abuse, gender identity conflicts,
Ok so what do you do for a child that has a gender Identity conflict? Are you familiar with the Harry Benjamin’s standards of care????
What do you tell the parents???? (Bahamian parents that would most likely abandon the child or abuse the child.)

abuse and other cases. My job is not to judge or impose my values or beliefs on any person but to help in any way I can to deal with the problem at hand. We often tend to think of abuse as simply sexual I don't but verbal ,and emotional abuse can be even more damaging. We all should be trying to install in our young people a sense of self esteem and self worth so that they truly believe that they are worthy of only the best that life has to offer ! With this base I truly believe everything else will fall into place.


Thank you for coming back to comment.

Hi Vicky, earlier you spoke of an encounter you had at endangered species. I understand that you are transgendered and you have a wife. But do you like men or women? Beacause you say that you wish that you were physically a woman, because you feel like a woman inside a man's body. So are you attracted to women, or men? And how does this affect your marriage, and your relationship with your children, if you have any?

Hi Vicky, earlier you spoke of an encounter you had at endangered species. I understand that you are transgendered and you have a wife. But do you like men or women? Beacause you say that you wish that you were physically a woman, because you feel like a woman inside a man's body. So are you attracted to women, or men? And how does this affect your marriage, and your relationship with your children, if you have any?

My attraction is to women. I have no sexual interest in men. I tell people I am a lesbian with different plumbing.
As a transgender I feel no difference in male or female I am both. I will never have that choice. No matter how much surgery is done I will always be transgendered. Now as to how the world sees and reacts to me I would prefer a female appearance.
My marriage is love not sex. Yes my wife and I make love and she says she dose not have to look anywhere else. My wife makes love with me a transgendered person. We did talk on the subject of sex change. Here are our responses.
Mine. I don't feel a need to risk sex change surgery just to make the world happy as to who I am. What is between my legs is my wife and I business and no one else’s. Maybe if I was 20 and know what I know now I might have gone the sex change route.
My wife.
She is not really interested in me having a sex change she like making love to me as I am. If I went that route it would be 1 day at a time and would be determent by how life is out side of the bedroom if she could handle the comments and opinions of other people. She said she married me for what is in my heart not what is between my legs.
As far as my children are concerned.
My daughter took the photo you see of me. I get perfume and panties for Christmas not cologne and a necktie. We shop together. I do their make up for them and vice versa. I am very protective of them and they are of me.
My granddaughter 6 years old understands not everyone is the same. She has understood I am boy/girl she even told her Sunday school teacher this.
Most of my in laws know but its just not a subject the can deal with. But I do go to family functions with a bit of make up on. I wear an anklet openly even when on the boat. My hair is dyed mahogany red and as you can see its long and cut as a woman’s. Most people who see me for the first address me with a female pronoun. Mam Miss Mrs. or in a group with my family "Hello Ladies".
My wife and children just smile.
Most of you have no clue as to transgender you think its about sex or dressing up. While some transgender have to slip in and out of gender roles to protect them selves I don't, Or at least most of the time. Some times I do something that masculine and I and quickly reminded by my family that the man in her.

People tring to understand transgender is like a person who has sight trying to understand a person who was born blind. Darkness is normal to them. Even if the sightless person even if they go blind can't understand what its like to have never seen. The person who loses their sight has still seen the blue sky. The person who was born blind has never seen the blue sky.

Ok, forgive me, but I'm just trying to understand all of what you're saying...I'm getting there but I need some more help.....Ok, you say you are attracted to women, and you are actually, physically a man,(no problem thus far) but you feel that you were meant to be a woman, basically.(here the problem arises), so you basically feel that if you were physically a woman, as you feel you were meant to be, that you would be a lesbian?...I think that is what you are saying.....that is how I understand it.....at first I actually was a little disturbed when I read your posts and stuff, but now I kinda understand, and I am a bit compassionate towards you. I still don't fully agree with all the things you post but I understand how you feel now, and how challenging it must be. But, who am I to judge anyone, one day I hope all of us can be together after this life and live in peace with each other, free of all prejudice and discrimination.

Ok, forgive me, nothing to forgive genuine intrest is a good thing. but I'm just trying to understand all of what you're saying...I'm getting there but I need some more help.....Ok, you say you are attracted to women, and you are actually, physically a man,(no problem thus far) but you feel that you were meant to be a woman, basically. No I am ment to be transgendered. it is socity that make us choose male or female. (here the problem arises), so you basically feel that if you were physically a woman, as you feel you were meant to be, that you would be a lesbian?... No I feel if I must choose a gender I would choose to be female. and yes a lesbian because I am attracted to women. I think that is what you are saying.....that is how I understand it..... transgender is very hard to understand. Its like trying to get someone who is born blind to understand a sunset as you see it.
I know what it is to be male and female. at first I actually was a little disturbed when I read your posts and stuff, but now I kinda understand, and I am a bit compassionate towards you. My wish is that you are compassionate to all people no matter how different they seem to be.I still don't fully agree with all the things you post but I understand how you feel now, and how challenging it must be. But, who am I to judge anyone, one day I hope all of us can be together after this life and live in peace with each other, free of all prejudice and discrimination.
Why wait till after this life stand up for it now. When you see people being treated differintly just because they are different stand up for them
stand with them. So that all are equal.

Vicky, and I ask this out of genuine interest myself, if you are filling out say a job application, do you mark the male or female box. And I ask this because simple things like that I imagine could be a challenge for you as a transgendered individual. Last I looked I dont think they had a transgendered option on applications and such, at least not here in the Bahamas. Also, do you go into female bathrooms, I imagine you do as you do appear female by your avatar. Basically describe to me (if you dont mind) the challenges you face living in Bahamian society as a transgender individual, because I obviously dont have a clue, and i imagine given our society it must be something of a challenge. Again if you dont mind. :)

Vicky, and I ask this out of genuine interest myself, if you are filling out say a job application, do you mark the male or female box. And I ask this because simple things like that I imagine could be a challenge for you as a transgendered individual. Last I looked I dont think they had a transgendered option on applications and such, at least not here in the Bahamas. Also, do you go into female bathrooms, I imagine you do as you do appear female by your avatar. Basically describe to me (if you dont mind) the challenges you face living in Bahamian society as a transgender individual, because I obviously dont have a clue, and i imagine given our society it must be something of a challenge. Again if you dont mind. :)

Again a very good question.
For all legal documents I put male much easer to follow the documents you already have. I had a strange look when the woman did my drivers license this year. I would much rather put transgendered or the Biblical term for someone not fitting the male or female role is Eunuch. But these options are not there yet.
As far as Bathrooms go I do my best to do it at home. before or after going out. When I can't avoid it I usually us the male bathroom, more a matter of legality than choice. Most of the time with my wife right out side. Yes I use the female bathroom to. Depending on the situation. Wife and I have fun reapplying our lipstick in the ladies bathroom.

As far as Bahamian society goes my wife and I always look over our shoulder. Not just because of hate attack but because crime is bad in general.
I don't care the more people stair the better. Because I have even seen hate in someone’s eyes and they had to look away as someone else looked at me and saw them looking at me very hard.
Yes I hear sissy and other degrading comments under people breath. Most of the time they just roll off my shoulder. You see if people have a problem with me it’s their problem.
Thank you for the complement on my pic.

FYI

http://www.micheline.ca/page000-professionnelle-e.htm

http://www.micheline.ca/page045-4-mariage.htm

Michelene's Legs are almost as great as mine's :D

one other mental illness concerned with children is ADHD
i mean it is growing four fold among children
symptoms include short attantion span, overexcitement, short temperedness
thses things also happen to adults
treatments include psycotherapy from specialist doctors and also medication like Strattera (http://www.drugdelivery.ca/s33721-s-STRATTERA.aspx)
the medicine was first to be approved by the FDA and is really very effective for children