It never ceases to amaze me how people you thought were your friends, or people who should love and support you switch on you when you are doing your thing and succeeding in life.

I have had to cut off a few people in 2007 for this same issue. People just hate to see you happy and doing well and moving away from pain into progress. When you are struggling, oh they are your best friend..but when you shake off the victim mentality and decide that you are going to make it, its a problem.

They say that people change when they make moves up their personal ladders of progress, but what they dont talk about is how people around you change when that happens.

I think that the reason for this, is that people are forced to re-examine themselves when they see a friend/colleague that they consider "on their level" jump to the next level leaving them behind.

That engenders all sorts things like jealousy, envy, and feelings of inferiority on their part.

The flip side of the coin, is that once you achieve something tangible, is that folks that had no time for you at all, all of a sudden want to be your bosom buddies.

Human nature. The veneer of civilisation is awfully thin.

I guess that sometimes people like one better as a failure than a success! Also, when you change, you change the whole dynamics around you.

I think that the reason for this, is that people are forced to re-examine themselves when they see a friend/colleague that they consider "on their level" jump to the next level leaving them behind.
That engenders all sorts things like jealousy, envy, and feelings of inferiority on their part.
The flip side of the coin, is that once you achieve something tangible, is that folks that had no time for you at all, all of a sudden want to be your bosom buddies.
Human nature. The veneer of civilisation is awfully thin.

Very true. In some cases though its raw bone jealousy and self hate too. Some people are happiest when you are hurting because they dont want you to have something they dont have. They feel better about their life when they see yours going down the tubes. They sit and wait for something bad to happen to you and while they seem sorry for you, they are secretly rejoicing.

They say that people change when they make moves up their personal ladders of progress, but what they dont talk about is how people around you change when that happens.


In time, your real friends emerge. And they'll be right there!!! Whatever you do, don't be bitter about it. Stay focused, accept that not EVERYONE will prove to be a friend but respect the VALUE they bring to your life.... no relationship is wasted! Many times people can't get past their own issues... :hammer:

In time, your real friends emerge. And they'll be right there!!! Whatever you do, don't be bitter about it. Stay focused, accept that not EVERYONE will prove to be a friend but respect the VALUE they bring to your life.... no relationship is wasted! Many times people can't get past their own issues... :hammer:

Oh trust me, I've accepted that reality a long time ago.

I am a really loyal person and when I am your friend, I am real with it, but I have also accepted that as a strong, intelligent, attractive female who knows her mind and doesnt need validation to keep on pressing on, I wont have too many real female friends. Females gat too many issues that they are unable to get past enough for them to last long without hating, stabbing a friend in the back or hurting their friend in some way.

I guess that sometimes people like one better as a failure than a success! Also, when you change, you change the whole dynamics around you.

Jealousy really runs rampant in our society when you think about it. We always find reasons to hate on others, and it essentially boils down to insecurity and jealousy.

It never ceases to amaze me how people you thought were your friends, or people who should love and support you switch on you when you are doing your thing and succeeding in life.
I have had to cut off a few people in 2007 for this same issue. People just hate to see you happy and doing well and moving away from pain into progress. When you are struggling, oh they are your best friend..but when you shake off the victim mentality and decide that you are going to make it, its a problem.
They say that people change when they make moves up their personal ladders of progress, but what they dont talk about is how people around you change when that happens.

You Transitioned??? cool

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lol...oooh la la. :)

I guess that sometimes people like one better as a failure than a success! Also, when you change, you change the whole dynamics around you.

Gee I know this feeling

You Transitioned??? cool

huh?

huh?

yeah you made a change in your life for the betterment of your life..
its a transition.
I know about this feeling

huh?
Heehee haa haa Hoo Hoo!





















Flatlines.

Heehee haa haa Hoo Hoo!
Flatlines.

when I first saw Vick's comment, I too thought that people were keeping secrets from us...

NOBODY LIKES WHAT MAKES THEM "SEE THEMSELVES". . . THEY EEN HATE YOU. . .YOUR SUCCESS "SHINES" THE LIGHT OF REALITY IN THEM "NOOKS AND CRANNIES" IN THEIR LIVES. STAY THEIR FRIEND AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. . .THEY NEED YOU AS THE "GUIDING LIGHT" FER THEM TO "SWEEP" SOME OF THEM "COBWEBS" OUTTA THEM CONERS!

YOU ARE NAH THE "CATASIS" FOR THIER SURVIVAL. . .THATS WHAT THEY HATE. . .NOT YOU!!! THOUGHT CONFRONTATION IS WAHT THEM PEOPLE NEED TO DO. . .TO MOVE TO ANOTHER LEVEL!:gi:

IN REALITY, THAT'S WHAT A THERAPIST DOES. . .THE CATASIS. . .THEN HELPING THE PERSON TO "RESTRUCTURE" THEIR LIVES!!