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am rather surprise that this thread hasn't gotten much respose, i guess fellas them happy about men not having much rights when it comes to access to their children...or just comfortable that only men is suppose to be responsible for the upbringing and support of their children... when there are some dead beat watless women out there....


for real... if women want equal rights, then they should share some of the responsibility .. men getting robbed if ypu ask me ..

HELL YEAH THEY SHOULD PAY TOO. IT'S THEIR CHILD/CHILDREN.



It is time that the laws in this country be changed, so that there is a balance
it is my view that both fathers and mothers be made to share in the responsibility in bringing up their children.

There is a lot of talk going around about single mothers, a no thought given to the many single fathers out there who have been taken care of their children, with no help from the mother. :raw:

I yet to hear of a case, where a father takes a mother to court to obtain child support, it may seem strange hey due to the bias in the system, that it is the sole responsibility for the father to financially support his kids without any input from the mother........ i know of men who supports their children by giving the mother monies which she sometime uses for herself and sometimes a new boyfriend........also some women who have many children for different men and collect support as a means of stability(baby machine).

i also know of a father who had five kids, when the mother parties all night leaving the kids with him, and didn't give him a penny to help out. had it been the other way he whould have been hauled before the courts and made to pay or go to jail if he didn't.

Since we are in the habit of adopting everything american i think we need to adopt their practice in making deadbeat mothers pay child support.


If you share this view let me hear ya.

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I finally see that the minister of social services has woke up an decided to look into this matter :raw:

It is time that the laws in this country be changed, so that there is a balance
it is my view that both fathers and mothers be made to share in the responsibility in bringing up their children.

There is a lot of talk going around about single mothers, a no thought given to the many single fathers out there who have been taken care of their children, with no help from the mother. :raw:

I yet to hear of a case, where a father takes a mother to court to obtain child support, it may seem strange hey due to the bias in the system, that it is the sole responsibility for the father to financially support his kids without any input from the mother........ i know of men who supports their children by giving the mother monies which she sometime uses for herself and sometimes a new boyfriend........also some women who have many children for different men and collect support as a means of stability(baby machine).

i also know of a father who had five kids, when the mother parties all night leaving the kids with him, and didn't give him a penny to help out. had it been the other way he whould have been hauled before the courts and made to pay or go to jail if he didn't.

Since we are in the habit of adopting everything american i think we need to adopt their practice in making deadbeat mothers pay child support.


If you share this view let me hear ya.


EVERY PERSON WEATHER MALE OR FEMALE SHOULD SHARE IN THE FINACIAL SUPPORT OF THE CHILD THEY HELP BRING INTO THIS WORLD. with that said i must say even though i know these types of situations do come up in life, heres what i say. BE CAREFUL OF WHO YOU GET INVOLVE WITH AND WHO YOU LAY DOWN AND MAKE BABY WIT. all a we have a brain so we must use.

It is time that the laws in this country be changed, so that there is a balance
it is my view that both fathers and mothers be made to share in the responsibility in bringing up their children.

There is a lot of talk going around about single mothers, a no thought given to the many single fathers out there who have been taken care of their children, with no help from the mother. :raw:

I yet to hear of a case, where a father takes a mother to court to obtain child support, it may seem strange hey due to the bias in the system, that it is the sole responsibility for the father to financially support his kids without any input from the mother........ i know of men who supports their children by giving the mother monies which she sometime uses for herself and sometimes a new boyfriend........also some women who have many children for different men and collect support as a means of stability(baby machine).

i also know of a father who had five kids, when the mother parties all night leaving the kids with him, and didn't give him a penny to help out. had it been the other way he whould have been hauled before the courts and made to pay or go to jail if he didn't.

Since we are in the habit of adopting everything american i think we need to adopt their practice in making deadbeat mothers pay child support.


If you share this view let me hear ya.



lawabidingbahamian, you do have a great point. but i think before the laws can take care of these dead beat mothers they first have to fix the laws on these fathers. i say this becuase it is clear that in our society if you have 10 dead beat parents in front of you 9 of them will be men. also i dont think the law should distiguish between a dead beat mother or father, if you are a parent and the child doesnt live with you, then you should pay child support. you have to fix A to get to B. as it stands right now the bahamas dead beat laws and penalties cant even come close to america's weather it pertains to men or women. in the USA a person cant hide from child support, if you dont wanna pay your only option is to not work at all or find a job that will pay you cash. also you get your lisense suspended, that might not sound like a big deal but if you get cuaght driving on a suspended then thats more trouble. also they put liens on your properties, you cant buy or sell real estate unless your child support is in order, they tell your boss etc.

having experiance Bahamian style dead beat laws, i must say they aint ready.

yeah... my wife is always saying I must spend more time with my son, I see him all day long when I'm not at work, and we hang out around the house mostly.

But she thinks we need to go out together more. I'm trying, but financially speaking and husdbandwise I am all there. I guess it is hard because my dad never really spent a lot of time with me - so I sorta don't how to be friend to my son - just a father. But I am working on it all the time.

With regard to child support though, I thought that women are instructed to pay if they are working - maybe I watch too much judge Judy and assumed it was the same here.

Personally, I can't see how a parent would not support their child financially, even it meant paying the bills instead of giving the other parent a huge wad of cash.

If I were to separate from my wife, I would still pay for my child's schooling, etc. If she was not trust worthy with the money I would pay it directly to the school, grocery store, etc and give her a copy of the reciepts as proof of how the money was spent and just give her a little cash if she needed money as well.

Same applies with women, if the guy will waste the money, then pay it to the store/institute, etc - but not supporting a child created by 2 people is quite unfair and ungodly as well.


well at least you are honest about you and your son. how old is he, if he is between 0-9 at that age boys think their father is the greatest and it doesnt take much to impress them. really all you have to do is be yourself and like your wife said take hin out weather it be to the movies, the beach, to work (depending on what you), doing something in the yard. hey even stayin at home and watching tv on the couch works

your idea about the indirect support works. if you think the woman will waste the money. then buy grociers and bring to the house, or pay the school fee directly to the school. i believe the courts will accept this as child support.

I think it is quite just. For many years there have been many complaints by the females in society that there is no equality between the sexes in the country. If we are to truly be equal then we should not only be equal in terms of our hiring practices or our salaries, but we should be equal in terms of our legal obligation as well. With the new wave of feminism crying for the rights of women, women must also accept the obligations that come along with equality that they cry for. In fact, I am sure that they will also find the idea of women paying for child support just as men do.



i have noticed women use this only when it is in their favor.

Personally I don't feel this is a matter of equality.

Women push out the kids so they know they produced a life without fail, the man may nt be sure - but the women ain't gonna forget going through labor.

The way I see it is simple - 2 people made the child - so 2 people should take care of it. If the wife doesn't have any income then she is expected to stay home and raise the kids while the father brings in the cash.

However, you can search high and low to find a women providing for her family while her husband/spouse stays home and raises the kids - not in the bahamas anyway.

I feel that if a women has a source of income it is only fair for her to help provide for the child she helped to create. Unfortunately, many women don't feel the same way - they feel it is the man's duty to take care of the family, and if he slips up - they will roll him out and find a new man to take care of her and the kids, that's why we have many families with 5 kids with different parents.

it is only fair for 2 people to take care of the children they create together, and if one does not have a salary they should either get a job or compensate/comprimise in some other way.


i dont think so, i think the reason is we have too many people with little common sense.

I am rather surprise that this thread hasn't gotten much respose, i guess fellas them happy about men not having much rights when it comes to access to their children...or just comfortable that only men is suppose to be responsible for the upbringing and support of their children... when there are some dead beat watless women out there....



well the reason is most single bahamian fathers just aint checkin. they dont wanna deal wit children period, they could care less if they see that child but yet they walk round wit picture in thier wallet talkin bout "dis my boy/girl here, i is man naw ya see i could make baby" and still raining down more babies on society. yall know what i talkin bout. and the only reason some of them, not all of them, talk bout they want visitation is they feel if they are forced to pay support then they need to get something for their money. trust me if you lay a deal on the table to the majority of dead beat dads that they will not be forced to pay support but the only catch is they can never see that child again. u bes believe plenny of them would jump for it. the true geniuine bahamian dad who wants to be involve in their childs life, not just finacially, but also emotionally and watch them grow up etc is far and few in between. I must say that i stand up and appluad those bahamian dads who do.

i think the main problem in the bahamas is few people relise that raising a child is more than throwin one 2 dollars their way every month or buying them stuff. and i think thats another reason so many people are having 5-10 kids

well the reason is most single bahamian fathers just aint checkin. they dont wanna deal wit children period, they could care less if they see that child but yet they walk round wit picture in thier wallet talkin bout "dis my boy/girl here, i is man naw ya see i could make baby" and still raining down more babies on society. yall know what i talkin bout. and the only reason some of them, not all of them, talk bout they want visitation is they feel if they are forced to pay support then they need to get something for their money. trust me if you lay a deal on the table to the majority of dead beat dads that they will not be forced to pay support but the only catch is they can never see that child again. u bes believe plenny of them would jump for it. the true geniuine bahamian dad who wants to be involve in their childs life, not just finacially, but also emotionally and watch them grow up etc is far and few in between. I must say that i stand up and appluad those bahamian dads who do.

i think the main problem in the bahamas is few people relise that raising a child is more than throwin one 2 dollars their way every month or buying them stuff. and i think thats another reason so many people are having 5-10 kids


I think you didn't read the topic or choose not to...........let me post it for you



Do You think Deadbeat Mothers Should Be Made To Pay Child Support

I think you didn't read the topic or choose not to...........let me post it for you



Do You think Deadbeat Mothers Should Be Made To Pay Child Support


i answered the question in post number 21. the quote to which you posted your smart remarks i was responding to a comment reffering to bahamian men being lax with the laws and not checking that they are being done wrong.

i answered the question in post number 21. the quote to which you posted your smart remarks i was responding to a comment reffering to bahamian men being lax with the laws and not checking that they are being done wrong.


I will take that as a compliment :dunce: :taped: go figure :dgi:

I will take that as a compliment :dunce: :taped: go figure :dgi:


if that helps you sleep at night, so be it.