I just got off the phone with my girlfriend whose mother lives with her. She has just spent since last week Saturday in Nassau at the hospital with her mom. It appears that mom had been hiding the fact that she had a sore on her leg for nearly a year and no-one knew about it. By the time my friend found out the sore was nearly 11 inches long and 4 inches wide! All mom would say is she didn't want to worry anyone! Now she may end up losing her leg because she didn't tell her children or family what was going on.

Why do old people do this? My mum was the same, she knew she had been given 6 months to live and never told us. It was only after she had died that her Doctor told me that and that she had asked him not to say anything.

I just got off the phone with my girlfriend whose mother lives with her. She has just spent since last week Saturday in Nassau at the hospital with her mom. It appears that mom had been hiding the fact that she had a sore on her leg for nearly a year and no-one knew about it. By the time my friend found out the sore was nearly 11 inches long and 4 inches wide! All mom would say is she didn't want to worry anyone! Now she may end up losing her leg because she didn't tell her children or family what was going on.
Why do old people do this? My mum was the same, she knew she had been given 6 months to live and never told us. It was only after she had died that her Doctor told me that and that she had asked him not to say anything.

parents don't want to "worry" us because they are suppose to be the strong ones.

I just got off the phone with my girlfriend whose mother lives with her. She has just spent since last week Saturday in Nassau at the hospital with her mom. It appears that mom had been hiding the fact that she had a sore on her leg for nearly a year and no-one knew about it. By the time my friend found out the sore was nearly 11 inches long and 4 inches wide! All mom would say is she didn't want to worry anyone! Now she may end up losing her leg because she didn't tell her children or family what was going on.
Why do old people do this? My mum was the same, she knew she had been given 6 months to live and never told us. It was only after she had died that her Doctor told me that and that she had asked him not to say anything.

wow that is sad. You never know how they really feel, after living such independent lives, now they are the ones that need care, they start feeling like they are a burden.

I guess some are made to feel that way, my bet though most feel that way no matter what.

Poor dears, if we are lucky to reach old age we shall find out.

As an "old" person can I answer.

For most old folks illness = weakness. It is hard to admit one is getting weaker and weaker.

Also, sometimes old folks are ready to "go." They don't want to be cured. They feel their time is up and welcome it without interference.

I think no one likes to face their own mortality. besides not wanting to worry others or become a burden, older folks feel like they are facing their mortality with each sickness.

As an "old" person can I answer.
For most old folks illness = weakness. It is hard to admit one is getting weaker and weaker.
Also, sometimes old folks are ready to "go." They don't want to be cured. They feel their time is up and welcome it without interference.

That's exactly what I was telling my friend this afternoon when she told me that her mom told the doctor that she does not want to have her leg removed and that as she (the daughter) was her legal next of kin she was going to override her mom's decision. I told her to respect her mom's wishes as I did with mine when she asked not to be put on a ventilator to keep her alive. I think we all know when it is time to 'go'.

And CG I don't think of you as "old", you een get dat many years on me :)

one reason... THEY ARE AFRAID!!

I've been there before. With all my hard mouth, when one of my parents say they are going to the hospital, I swear my heart skips couple beats. They are afraid the sickness and how it will affect us.

one reason... THEY ARE AFRAID!!
I've been there before. With all my hard mouth, when one of my parents say they are going to the hospital, I swear my heart skips couple beats. They are afraid the sickness and how it will affect us.

their not the only ones afraid eh :)

their not the only ones afraid eh :)




NOPE..

one reason... THEY ARE AFRAID!!
I've been there before. With all my hard mouth, when one of my parents say they are going to the hospital, I swear my heart skips couple beats. They are afraid the sickness and how it will affect us.

True, true.

een you old though?:taped2:


:):):)

one reason... THEY ARE AFRAID!!....

I am sure some are, but as a person, Lay Pastor, and Buddhist teacher, who has sat with older people as they die I have seen many - those not blasted out on pain killers, to be almost blissful at the last moment. There is some fear hours before but it seems they enter a world of understanding where you and I cannot, as yet, enter. But that is at death. You have to understand that as one gets older there are pains, almost a new one each day. The body get tired of that game. Fear gives way to "wanting out."

True, true.
een you old though?:taped2:
:):):)


you lucky this site broke down on me jess nah!! i tort errybody cooda answer dis thread man. is 16 ole in YOUR book?:cutie:

[QUOTE=FACTS ONLY;242027]you lucky this site broke down on me jess nah!! i tort errybody cooda answer dis thread man. is 16 ole in YOUR book?:cutie:[/QUOTe

lol

I am sure some are, but as a person, Lay Pastor, and Buddhist teacher, who has sat with older people as they die I have seen many - those not blasted out on pain killers, to be almost blissful at the last moment. There is some fear hours before but it seems they enter a world of understanding where you and I cannot, as yet, enter. But that is at death. You have to understand that as one gets older there are pains, almost a new one each day. The body get tired of that game. Fear gives way to "wanting out."
I was with my mum when she died and it was amazing to me. She was extremely restless when we got to the hospital, even though she was not really conscious, our priest came to pray over her and give her the last rites, as soon as he had finished, it was like she straightened herself out on the bed, relaxed and just let go. Within 30 minutes she had passed on to a better place.

I was with my mum when she died and it was amazing to me. She was extremely restless when we got to the hospital, even though she was not really conscious, our priest came to pray over her and give her the last rites, as soon as he had finished, it was like she straightened herself out on the bed, relaxed and just let go. Within 30 minutes she had passed on to a better place.

That must be something to witness. When my Father died we had just left the hospital, by the time we got back the warmth was just leaving his body.

I miss my Daddy, over 30 odd years now. sniff