Na my baby brother gat this girlfriend, they been together off and on for about 8 years. She has two boys 2 yrs- 7mo for my brother, an 11 year old daughter and a 7 year old son by two different men. They all live in my brothers house and he supports all of them, she does not work.

Ain a week go by and they don't fight. Both of them are younger than 30. My brother still enjoying life and she ready to settle, hence the numerous fights. Every week she pack to move, she would go to her mom for a few days and come back.

I try not to get in their business but my nephews are involved and are suffering because of the fights. One night the fight got so bad, my brother call the police and ask them, to ask her to leave.

She told the Police she have two kids for my brother and she ain have no place to go. Some young dumb police officer tell her she have a right to be in the house, my brother can't put her out. So she using that as ammunition.

So now she walking around with key around her neck, like her name on the mortgage. She was not in the picture when he got that house. Last week my brother was filling out his insurance beneficiary form and she notice he ain put her name on it, another big bust up.

That weekend he was in a bar with some friends, she brought the baby in his sitter and the three year old, put them on the bar and left. Smoke was coming from my brothers ears. I went and collected my nephews.

Na I getting tired of this and instead of them fighting, it ger be me fighting. My brother told her not to have the last baby, but she have it in her head he won't leave her. He is tired and have had enough!

Na yesterday he told me he thinking about having another child with another girl to spite her. At 28 yrs he has a good job, his own home and he works hard. I am trying to talk him out of this, but man he fed up! If he come home late in the night, either they fight or she lock him out his bedroom.

She like to take his kids to whatever bar he is in, no matter what time it is. She picks up without the kids and go home to her parent's house. When she returns he usually have another girl watching the kids, then she will get upset, then another row and fight.

My brother is caught between a rock and a hard place, Her mom's house is already filled, so there is no place for my nephews. Plus my brother noticed that the grammy don't care much for his boys and that bugging him.

My brother don't want them to go there to sleep on the floor, but keeping his boys comfortable in his house means, keeping her living there, and it ain working out.


What do you do in a situation like this? I fear one day I will receive a call that they had a fight and one is dead. She is a woman who don't back down, she already pull knife on my brother twice.

What ta do?????

KICK HER BEHIND TO DA CURRRRBBB!!!!!!!
or tell she get a job n start supportung

KICK HER BEHIND TO DA CURRRRBBB!!!!!!!
or tell she get a job n start supportung


YMan you ain hear what I say about the children ah?? I ain thinking about her, shots I ready to find one girl for brother now! My nephews them still young, too young to be getting left in clubs and bars!

My brother support all 4 of the kids, but she is the problem here.

Kicking her means kicking the boys, she using them as leverage.

This mess is just getting bigger and bigger! Man brother staying away from his own house.

First of all tell your brother not to have another child to spite her.

Perhaps he should get some legal advice...I am thinking put her and her two older children out, prove she is unfit as she takes the children to bars etc and the big one she een working. Once she is gone he can get a full time sitter while he is working.

He will of course have to adjust his lifestyle if he takes the responsibility of being a single parent.

Na my baby brother gat this girlfriend, they been together off and on for about 8 years. She has two boys 2 yrs- 7mo for my brother, an 11 year old daughter and a 7 year old son by two different men. They all live in my brothers house and he supports all of them, she does not work.
Ain a week go by and they don't fight. Both of them are younger than 30. My brother still enjoying life and she ready to settle, hence the numerous fights. Every week she pack to move, she would go to her mom for a few days and come back.
I try not to get in their business but my nephews are involved and are suffering because of the fights. One night the fight got so bad, my brother call the police and ask them, to ask her to leave.
She told the Police she have two kids for my brother and she ain have no place to go. Some young dumb police officer tell her she have a right to be in the house, my brother can't put her out. So she using that as ammunition.
So now she walking around with key around her neck, like her name on the mortgage. She was not in the picture when he got that house. Last week my brother was filling out his insurance beneficiary form and she notice he ain put her name on it, another big bust up.
That weekend he was in a bar with some friends, she brought the baby in his sitter and the three year old, put them on the bar and left. Smoke was coming from my brothers ears. I went and collected my nephews.
Na I getting tired of this and instead of them fighting, it ger be me fighting. My brother told her not to have the last baby, but she have it in her head he won't leave her. He is tired and have had enough!
Na yesterday he told me he thinking about having another child with another girl to spite her. At 28 yrs he has a good job, his own home and he works hard. I am trying to talk him out of this, but man he fed up! If he come home late in the night, either they fight or she lock him out his bedroom.
She like to take his kids to whatever bar he is in, no matter what time it is. She picks up without the kids and go home to her parent's house. When she returns he usually have another girl watching the kids, then she will get upset, then another row and fight.
My brother is caught between a rock and a hard place, Her mom's house is already filled, so there is no place for my nephews. Plus my brother noticed that the grammy don't care much for his boys and that bugging him.
My brother don't want them to go there to sleep on the floor, but keeping his boys comfortable in his house means, keeping her living there, and it ain working out.
What do you do in a situation like this? I fear one day I will receive a call that they had a fight and one is dead. She is a woman who don't back down, she already pull knife on my brother twice.
What ta do?????


Ya brother in some deep doo doo. Having another child for someone else is not the answer.That my send the psycho off the deep end some more.What he needs to do is to find a good attorney who deals with family law. Make sure he keeps all of his receipts from the house,light and water, or anything else he has to pay for.There are ways that he can still take care of his children and be far away from here. Sad to see how sometimes women use children in their silly games.

I really have a problem with these dam women who think these children gonna be a meal ticket. WTF is wrong with them! This is so ridiculous, then they meet another man and expect them to support their packages from other men.

Besides where the daddies of the other children.


This sh!t really upsets me! Women need to learn that children will not make a man or keep a man.....

YMan you ain hear what I say about the children ah?? I ain thinking about her, shots I ready to find one girl for brother now! My nephews them still young, too young to be getting left in clubs and bars!
My brother support all 4 of the kids, but she is the problem here.
Kicking her means kicking the boys, she using them as leverage.
This mess is just getting bigger and bigger! Man brother staying away from his own house.
Or, my bad well if it dat bad he always cud hire a hitm:footmouthn
but let me be serious if u guys trust the court system he shud first seek legal custody of the chirren and when that happens then he cud let her go. Thats my first suggestion

I'm not sure your brother is totally innocent here 4 - you make your bed you lie in it (but sounds like he made a bad choice from the start). I would suggest professional family counselling.

My brother really wants his kids, but not her. Counselling ain ger work, there is no family.

He also takes care of the other two kids. She is in court with one father and trying to find the next one to have him served with a summons.

Despite all their fights my brother says he will never show the other two kids any difference he will still help her financially with them.

I have a live in maid all lined up but like I said that Police gat her head swell, she ain moving and I do not want my brother to try to evict her, it ain't ger end well.

Na my next step is to bring Madea (my mom) to put her out, but we still have to handle that carefully.

We still want to have contact with the boys and be able to see them.

She can't fix her mouth to talk about child support, my brother goes above and beyond with the four of those kids for the past eight years.

Or, my bad well if it dat bad he always cud hire a hitm:footmouthn
but let me be serious if u guys trust the court system he shud first seek legal custody of the chirren and when that happens then he cud let her go. Thats my first suggestion

That could take time, in the main time my nephews are being used like rope, stretched between to feuding parents.

My 3 yr old nephew already has an attitude, he is always threatening to punch somone in their mouth! He is speaking what he is hearing and his behaviour is not the best. He talks and sometimes curses like a grown up.

That could take time, in the main time my nephews are being used like rope, stretched between to feuding parents.
My 3 yr old nephew already has an attitude, he is always threatening to punch somone in their mouth! He is speaking what he is hearing and his behaviour is not the best. He talks and sometimes curses like a grown up.
Well is there sumhow the kids can be moved to a neutral place while ur brother n his girlfriend sort things out?

My brother really wants his kids, but not her. Counselling ain ger work, there is no family.
He also takes care of the other two kids. She is in court with one father and trying to find the next one to have him served with a summons.
Despite all their fights my brother says he will never show the other two kids any difference he will still help her financially with them.
I have a live in maid all lined up but like I said that Police gat her head swell, she ain moving and I do not want my brother to try to evict her, it ain't ger end well.
Na my next step is to bring Madea (my mom) to put her out, but we still have to handle that carefully.
We still want to have contact with the boys and be able to see them.
She can't fix her mouth to talk about child support, my brother goes above and beyond with the four of those kids for the past eight years.

Brother gatta make some tuff choices! He's not married... right? So, he gatta decide if he want live with this package or without! He can't have it all and yes, ppl. will be hurt in the process.... but all are more likely to continue to be alive....

Homegurl gatta hit da road (maybe even with the chil'ren :() if he can't get her to reason that he should keep them one time!

Then he need NEVER be alone ... maybe you, a friend or other family should try play him close for a while... to attempt to diffuse some of the drama...

Dis jes off da cuff... he's weyyy too young fa such screw ups...but, he needs to break da cycle now for it gets deeper.... no point in continuing down a wrong path..... wastin' time....:hammer:

Why does your brother think having more baby mama drama is the answer?? He's a bit immature hissef.

Anyway, he ain married to her so he technically has NO RIGHTS!!!! Aint Bahamian law grand.

He can't do anything. Let this be a lesson...if she crazy when you meet her she gone stay crazy.

His only options are to kick her AND the kids out and have weekend visits and pay child support or keep her in the house.

Unless she is stung out on drugs and beating the kids to the point where they in the hospital he ain getting those kids.

But for the LOVE OF ALL do not have a baby with another girl, better he put a bullet in his head.

Tell your brother he need to buy his drinks wholesale and stay home an drink um instead of hanging out in bars.

It sounds like homegirl ain secure in her relationship with him and the fact that he have other woman in the house watching the kids when she leave ein helping. He sounds like he wan have his cake and eat it too and das where the problems come in. He still is a 'player' but have taken on settled man responsibilities...and thinking bout another child just adds to them...he ein mature at all if he thinks another child 'ga spite her'....aint dat something young bahamian man think that you having a baby for him ga spite you!

He needs to decide if he ga be with her and continue to support her and the kids or not. If not then he needs to put her out and move on with his life while supporting his kids.

She needs to go get a job..God bless the child that has his own.

What a mess!

If he gets another girl pregnant to spite her, that poor girl, has no idea what she in for, so encourage him not to do that.

Maybe he is in the bar alot because he doesnt want to be around her, ever thought about that? and she is pushing him far far away.

Encourage her to get a job and she may see things differently as a working woman, she is too comfy right now.

I think he should have encouraged her to be an independant working woman and then she would not have all this time on her hands.