Usually I stay away from discussions on sexuality, but I've been curious about this for some time. Why do homosexual men marry heterosexual women? Star Jones has finally filed for divorce from that guy who is obviously gay - and there is a guy in my office that is also obviously gay but married and just had a baby.
http://tv.msn.com/tv/article.aspx?news=310735&GT1=7703
Please, no fighting / cussing ..... just want to know what generally causes people to make these types of decision. :dgi:

It's amazing that u should ask this question because eventhough I am all for people being what they want to be I think the above mentioned is disgusting.. Why do I think so? Well if the same sex attracts you then stay with that and to hell with what people think.. As for why this type of union takes place I think it is just them adhering to the pressures of society..:cutie:

For the same reason that hetereosexual men marry hetereosexual women who they don't love I guess...Society has in some cases conditioned men to believe that a wife's purpose is act as the hottest accesory and mandatory to complete and complement one's sucess... while to an extent this is true...it is not the sole intent for marriage...the sanctity of the union is almost non-existent and people often marry for convenience rather than an expression of love...not to mention that in the case of homosexuals who chose to live their lives in secrecy...what better way(to them) to mask their identity (so to speak) than to show how "straight" they are than to marry a woman and have a few kids...
It's sad but a bitter reality...but...I would be remiss if I didn't say this...I find it amazing sometimes that these women appear so startled when it is revealed that their men are gay...it boggles my mind how they can't tell ...

Hey Adidas,

I really appreciate your insights, and see your point. I guess, I'm too much of an idealist. While I understand that people often marry for various reasons, I'm not sure I could compromise who I truly am, and my long-term happiness to fit a social mold (but that's just me).

For the same reason that hetereosexual men marry hetereosexual women who they don't love I guess...Society has in some cases conditioned men to believe that a wife's purpose is act as the hottest accesory and mandatory to complete and complement one's sucess... while to an extent this is true...it is not the sole intent for marriage...the sanctity of the union is almost non-existent and people often marry for convenience rather than an expression of love...not to mention that in the case of homosexuals who chose to live their lives in secrecy...what better way(to them) to mask their identity (so to speak) than to show how "straight" they are than to marry a woman and have a few kids...
It's sad but a bitter reality...but...I would be remiss if I didn't say this...I find it amazing sometimes that these women appear so startled when it is revealed that their men are gay...it boggles my mind how they can't tell ...

EXACTLY!!!

hmmm...
yep feminity is out the window as an obvious sign...
But what I meant is...a woman usually knows or has some clue...be candid about your thoughts...if the "spirit tells you the man is gay...call him out and question your thoughts with him...Intimacy is a serious thing...when you are truly intimate with someone and fall deeply in love you become connected...as hard as they may try they cannot hide anything from you...
now even further...WOMEN!...know your man's body...study it and know it like the back of your hand...physical evidence (changes) can SURELY alert you if your man is having a sexual gay relationship...(nuff said)...
it is nearly impossible to maintain a relationship with a man and a woman at the same time (without slipping up somewhere)... get to know his friends... do a background check on your man and his friends if need be... now ladies I dont wan't for one second for you to run around paranoid looking for signs... but a woman's intuition is right most of the time... be candid about your feelings with him...

Wouldn't it just be easier to ask someone else who is gay? They are usually upfront and they hardly lie.

Usually I stay away from discussions on sexuality, but I've been curious about this for some time. Why do homosexual men marry heterosexual women? Star Jones has finally filed for divorce from that guy who is obviously gay - and there is a guy in my office that is also obviously gay but married and just had a baby.
http://tv.msn.com/tv/article.aspx?news=310735&GT1=7703
Please, no fighting / cussing ..... just want to know what generally causes people to make these types of decision. :dgi:


In reference to the women three simple words, LOOKS, GREED AND IGNORANCE.
As for the men they want to appear normal I guess.

In reference to the women three simple words, LOOKS, GREED AND IGNORANCE.
As for the men they want to appear normal I guess.Ooohhh!

In reference to the women three simple words, LOOKS, GREED AND IGNORANCE.
As for the men they want to appear normal I guess.
Chile I doon care how good they look I carn marry a man who prettier than me!

hmmm...
yep feminity is out the window as an obvious sign...
But what I meant is...a woman usually knows or has some clue...be candid about your thoughts...if the "spirit tells you the man is gay...call him out and question your thoughts with him...Intimacy is a serious thing...when you are truly intimate with someone and fall deeply in love you become connected...as hard as they may try they cannot hide anything from you...
now even further...WOMEN!...know your man's body...study it and know it like the back of your hand...physical evidence (changes) can SURELY alert you if your man is having a sexual gay relationship...(nuff said)...
it is nearly impossible to maintain a relationship with a man and a woman at the same time (without slipping up somewhere)... get to know his friends... do a background check on your man and his friends if need be... now ladies I dont wan't for one second for you to run around paranoid looking for signs... but a woman's intuition is right most of the time... be candid about your feelings with him...

thanks for the tips.

sometimes youcould just feel it.........like we were out at the club chillin with this guy.........he didnt look at any of the scantily clad women there, but the guy who was picking up all the drinks (i think they have a 60 second policy) who was obviously gay, he was looking at!!!!!!!!!!!!! apparently i was the only one who saw it, but i swear i saw it.

Chile I doon care how good they look I carn marry a man who prettier than me!

Most of the women that marry these guys either they blind or they just want that security that the fella can give them financially. I have heard that a few of these couples actually have an agreement. Some of these semi retarded gals think they can actually change the fella til they catch him in bed with the gardiner.

wow..... list some of the symptoms

For me as a woman there are just certain things that I personally pick up on. Studying them and talking to them will reveal a lot.

There may be some who may not be reveal by just passing and looking, but be around them long enough and all will soon be revealed.

Remember, many of them are on a quests to be be more feminine like. As a woman there are certain things I would never expect to see or hear from a man.

Most of the women that marry these guys either they blind or they just want that security that the fella can give them financially. I have heard that a few of these couples actually have an agreement. Some of these semi retarded gals think they can actually change the fella til they catch him in bed with the gardiner.

Chile money een gonna make me do it either. But I know there are a lot of ppl still married because of finances....

Before they're plumbers or writers or taxi drivers or unemployed or journalists, before everything else, men are men. Whether heterosexual or homosexual. The only difference is that some of them remind you of it as soon as you meet them, and others wait for a little while.

thanks for the tips.
sometimes youcould just feel it.........like we were out at the club chillin with this guy.........he didnt look at any of the scantily clad women there, but the guy who was picking up all the drinks (i think they have a 60 second policy) who was obviously gay, he was looking at!!!!!!!!!!!!! apparently i was the only one who saw it, but i swear i saw it.
Women have a wonderful instinct about things. They can discover everything except the obvious!

Wouldn't it just be easier to ask someone else who is gay? They are usually upfront and they hardly lie.
that's what I meant by do a background check...

Chile I doon care how good they look I carn marry a man who prettier than me!

I agree with you on this! cus I ain wan fight for mirror space every morning.:cutie: