Should a single independent woman who wants a child but does not have a husband or a steady man who is willing to commit, use her non committal boy friend to have a child. Time is of the essence as the biological clock is ticking.
She has a good job a home and is well set to handle the responsiblity.
The boyfriend on the other hand, has no problem fathering the child, but is not willing to say what he thinks about their future together.
He is not willing to fully committe to the relationship at this time, but she feels that whether he is there to help or not, she wants to have a child.
Ladies and men, what would you do???

Tell her not to...this boyfriend could turn out to be her worst nightmare if things don't work out and she has his child! He may take her to court and thing....some of these men een stupid ya know!

The time being of the essence line sounds like she is desparate! One should never allow a man to see them in a state of desperation!

Tell her to consider adoption/fostering...there are a lot of children in this country who need love or smeone to show them they car.

I am considering the adoption route! Besides being a parent is not for everyone...

"Non-committal boyfriend" is the new term nowadays when a man doesn't marry a gal, eh? *BOL*

Let me get this right...When a woman isn't interested or "falling over herself" to get married, she is considered "independent", but when a man does it he's "non-committal".

Ya'll need to ease up on that double standard a bit... :)

Ever consider that she may not be "the one" that he wants to marry? Or have people become so naive nowadays that marriage is the expected outcome of every relationship that exists?

As for the initial question, the "independent" lady in question will do what she wants to anyway, so what does our opinion (especially that of us men) matter? Here goes in any event...I would say that she should not do it, as her "non-committal" boyfriend will forever be tied to her at the hip...figuratively speaking.

ah lawd....

we need to stop but you know how Bahamian society goes...perhaps she een da one! But he still a non committed playa!

Hey Goddess is young and ain ready to be tied down YET!! Goddess also loves to pick up and travel at whim!!
Goddess always travels with her passport, Ya never know when a trip will pop up!
Besides, plenty nieces and nephews keeps me busy. The good thing about this is when I get tired babysitting, I drop them to their parents.
But the different views stated here were very varied and informative. I have discussed a lot of this with the person involved but the final decision will be her's to make.
But from all indications, I believe she will go ahead with her plans and have a kid of her own. She use to have a child from the Grand Bahama children's home on weekends, but she was not happy that she was not allowed to choose the child she wanted.
The child she was given, had a problem with her leg and could not walk normally, plus she was already 3 yrs and had some developmental problems.
She has considered all of the above but prefers to have child of her own.
Thanks for the suggestions and advice. It is so good to see the male beings represented in this discussion. To me the views of the men in this discussion were valuable.
Don't worry Lil fish, she say's she ain want no child support, she only want's the child.


Is she aware that if she gets pregnant se will not have the privilege of picking, choosing and refusing the child that she wants. Whatever she shoots out whether it is healthy has a deformity or a mental disorder that is what she will have to work with.