Nah yinna know how sometimes BI does get real gossipy.But have you ever had gossip destroy your life.I have.I was the victim of a terrible smear campaign by my own family.it got so bad that 4 years ago a heated argument ensued almost to the point of physical confrontation.for years because of the lies that were told there was no communication between myself and that family member.if we saw each other on the streets heads were held high and we would pretend as if we did not see one another.Fast foward to this weekend. I gat a huge thumping at my door before sunrise in da morning.At dis hour ya only come if ya gat bad news or ya car break down on der way from a booty call.anyway my relative came to me in tears and asked me for forgiveness...yes that is right..forgiveness...da good F word.she said that God was dealing with her and for some reason she could not sleep all night.she said she had to come...me with my usual sarcastic self, i said you een tell God to deal wid you like after sunrise or at a later hour in da morning..she ignorned me and kept on talking to me with seriousness and passion in her voice.she said she was told by many persons that everything that the other sibling told here were half truths and the true story was never told...i said well i knew that, but the only reason why this situation has gone on for years was because people kept feeding you lies and you accepted it and she said yes.yes wow dat was quick.you mean after all the sleepless nights i had,bout of deep depression,elevated blood pressure, I got an admission.like i told her i am human and i responded sometimes out of frustration.i am not perfect, but the things that were said about me were very malicious and sometimes i had to tink wow is that what my own family think about me.evn jesus asked his disciples who do people say i am? people say words do not hurt, but let me tell you when your own go and tell everybody in a 21 mile radius lies about you,it hurts.i was made out to look like i was the worst thing on earth.this is how bad it was.anyway, she called the other sibling and we all met face to face.she took charge and told the sibling that the gossip has to stop.what was interesting was the same sibling that was bringing gossip was carrying gossip also, and that person was carrying on a campaign of lies against her also.Now it had reached to the point were she was being talked about. we placed all of out cards on the table and the root of the problem was exposed.she then contacted each family member for a truce within the family.A family meeting was called, but despite coformations from the other siblings that they were coming, they never showed up.my relative was very disappointed.after speaking with one sibling in paticular she has been holding a grudge against the matriarch of our family for over 30 years.imagine that.Anyway my sibling told me she tried to bring the family together, but there are those who are resistant to it. i told her she tried, which she really did.but she said something so interesting.she said to me i will deal with you directly and i do not want you and I to ever go back to the way we were.she extended an olive branch to me and I accepted it.The power of forgiveness.

Awwwww. That was such a nice story.

GFY!

Im going to read ..... but whats up with your signature?

anyway my relative came to me in tears and asked me for forgiveness...yes that is right..forgiveness...da good F word.she said that God was dealing with her
This sounds positive, but be careful still. I have a feeling that the dust hasn't settled as yet.
Im going to read ..... but whats up with your signature?
Gal, when you take a break from here, things is change quick.

http://www.bahamasissues.com/showthread.php?t=16613

GFY!

Now that acronym could go either way...You being positive right?

GFY = Good for you? :confused:

This sounds positive, but be careful still. I have a feeling that the dust hasn't settled as yet.
Gal, when you take a break from here, things is change quick.
http://www.bahamasissues.com/showthread.php?t=16613

OH, Thanks B

Can you sum it up in 2 sentences and tell me how this came about or who triggered it?

Chile, I don't know the specifics, apparently, BSuga didn't name anyone, however, she stated that she doesn't have to up with crap here and left. People are now wondering how safe it is to stay, with all the tension seeping through lately.

Chile, I don't know the specifics, apparently, BSuga didn't name anyone, however, she stated that she doesn't have to up with crap here and left. People are now wondering how safe it is to stay, with all the tension seeping through lately.

This is why I dont post as often as I use to.

Be Safe:angel:

This sounds positive, but be careful still. I have a feeling that the dust hasn't settled as yet.
Gal, when you take a break from here, things is change quick.
http://www.bahamasissues.com/showthread.php?t=16613


I receive that Bahamia,i always hear people say God took away my sins not my senses.I have been burned badly emotionally by my family.so i know i do not want to go that route again.There is still a huge amount of tension in the family that was built up over decades.there were things i did not want to go into because this would turned into an epistle.but God has given me the a strong mind.so i while always have my eyes wide open.:)

Addressed to no one in particular.

It seems to me that this world is full of “difficult” people. If we keep backing away from them we will end up with our backs to the sea with no place to go.

There are people on this site that irritate me, somewhat. There was one, maybe two, that kept calling me a racist! One even sent me an email saying he was going to “look me up!” I saved him the trouble by giving him my address - he never showed! Bullies seldom do. Their “job” is to spread fear, not to actual do something tangible.

The thing is there are more, much more, good people on this site. They keep me coming back. The bad ones are just that, bad ones and come with the territory. The same hold true in "real" life.

Addressed to no one in particular.
It seems to me that this world is full of “difficult” people. If we keep backing away from them we will end up with our backs to the sea with no place to go.
There are people on this site that irritate me, somewhat. There was one, maybe two, that kept calling me a racist! One even sent me an email saying he was going to “look me up!” I saved him the trouble by giving him my address - he never showed! Bullies seldom do. Their “job” is to spread fear, not to actual do something tangible.
The thing is there are more, much more, good people on this site. They keep me coming back. The bad ones are just that, bad ones and come with the territory. The same hold true in "real" life.


CG you are always the voice of reason.There seems to be alot of bullies on this forum.but those of us who are level headed must learn to walk away.every situation does not need a confrontation. I have learnt in life that you can be positive in your silence.We do not need to answer or reply to every negative post.there are someone this site who i will never respond to their post because they love drama.but just as in real life I only reply to those who are mature enough how to debate without being down right rude.

Addressed to no one in particular.
It seems to me that this world is full of “difficult” people. If we keep backing away from them we will end up with our backs to the sea with no place to go.
There are people on this site that irritate me, somewhat. There was one, maybe two, that kept calling me a racist! One even sent me an email saying he was going to “look me up!” I saved him the trouble by giving him my address - he never showed! Bullies seldom do. Their “job” is to spread fear, not to actual do something tangible.
The thing is there are more, much more, good people on this site. They keep me coming back. The bad ones are just that, bad ones and come with the territory. The same hold true in "real" life.
If I had a doller for every negative thing said about me i would be a very rich man.
People will talk but if you allow there talks to affect you and change who you are socailly and as a person then the talks win.
Recently i had some fokls from church over to my house for a socail gathering and one of them had an event this past saturday and did not invite me because of talks that they had heard about my past. i was offended but i whent to church oncunday and still hugged them and showed them love .
If I had reacted to the socaul snubb then they would have won .
Talk is just that talk.

Recently i had some fokls from church over to my house for a socail gathering and one of them had an event this past saturday and did not invite me because of talks that they had heard about my past. i was offended but i whent to church oncunday and still hugged them and showed them love.
Tony you is people man. I still harbouring some hate for a few peoples because of this same gossip sh*t.
I workin' on it though.

Tony you is people man. I still harbouring some hate for a few peoples because of this same gossip sh*t.
I workin' on it though.
hate my freind destroy you from within, i had so much hate for some ppl in this town that if I had caught them in a back alley dog would have had there lunch and the rat would take the greasy bag.
The only way i got over mine was to just say what would jesus do ( now sometime i remember the story when he took the whip and tear up some azz in the temple). I live as thou I must make a change, its not easy because the haters will still raise there stinin little heads up but i kill them with love . love my freind erases a multitude of multitudes. :angel: