As a little boi..I watched my Daddy beat my Mom.Often,I would try to intervene"at da age of 5" only to get thrown aside.It was most frightening,"watching my family fall apart,by beating one another." I swore to god then,I would neva raise a hand to a woman and I neva have.When it gets that bad........tip on out da door.BUT,let's look at da problem from a realistic view,aside from just men dat are just bullies.Women,do not argue like men do!In a argumentative situation wit a woman,most woman pull out da big guns and say the nastiest tings dey can tink of to get their man's attention.If their is an audience......all da betta for her.One of da most fragile tings in the world is the male ego,when a man is humiliated,his instinct is to strike out physically.......so goes da story.I have seem my Mom do this and dozens of women besides,so to my bruddas I say......just walk,just leave do not lower yourself,show true courage do not let her win.Once you hit her she owns you forever as a cowardly woman beater.She knows wa she doin,don't let it happen.:angel:


The thing is..to sensible men, the name caling and the nasty remarks can not hurt. Because, I allways say....after all of that, you still chose to sleep with me and be with me!
So who is wasting who's time?
Certainly not me, because I have no big problem with you as a human being.
That normally gets em...i like to see the wind deflate out of their systems!
LOL....

Mind you... I MAY HAVE HUGE PROLLEMS WITH THE "LADY":sarcastic ...
But, why escalate a no win situation?

I would rather try to get into her pants again...or try my hand with her freinds!
It is much cheaper, you get better satisfaction plus....you leave without having to throw a single blow.
:)

By the way true Bahamian...powerful story.
I too saw my mum and dad fight...allbeit very brief because mum kicked that loser in the tail before it got too out of hand.

When you see your mum pull out a gun on your popps, or your dad try to pluck your moms eyeballs out...things have gotten way out of control, and it is time to consider your role as a responsible parent. With that, I was having nervous effects of their fighting, that was manifesting physically.
But, I came out...OK...to some extent.

As a little boi..I watched my Daddy beat my Mom.Often,I would try to intervene"at da age of 5" only to get thrown aside.It was most frightening,"watching my family fall apart,by beating one another." I swore to god then,I would neva raise a hand to a woman and I neva have.When it gets that bad........tip on out da door.BUT,let's look at da problem from a realistic view,aside from just men dat are just bullies.Women,do not argue like men do!In a argumentative situation wit a woman,most woman pull out da big guns and say the nastiest tings dey can tink of to get their man's attention.If their is an audience......all da betta for her.One of da most fragile tings in the world is the male ego,when a man is humiliated,his instinct is to strike out physically.......so goes da story.I have seem my Mom do this and dozens of women besides,so to my bruddas I say......just walk,just leave do not lower yourself,show true courage do not let her win.Once you hit her she owns you forever as a cowardly woman beater.She knows wa she doin,don't let it happen.:angel:

so your consensus is that your mom provoked the domestic violence in your parents unhealthy relationship because woman can say "some hurtful things"?

so your consensus is that your mom provoked the domestic violence in your parents unhealthy relationship because woman can say "some hurtful things"?


You see that right. Domestic violence is all about power and control. Women don't always have to say anything "hurtful" to their abusive partner.

Da man needs to be in constant pain physically and emotionally when he looks in the mirror. :cop:
And whenever he goes out with someone esle and they ask "Why ya face all scar up?" he would reply "My ex-girlfriend throw hot grits on me" LOLOLOLOL
Mikki, I need to teach your Swedish wife how to make grits.....fix ya buisness right up ;) :D

DAS COLD!!!

I respect your opinion but I was speaking in general...I dont know her to comment on her...but it has to make you wonder what other kind of woman but a semi-retarded and flighty passive white woman or even an asian would stand for and tolerate his mess...

I am wondering how much you know Asian women, old time yes, most of them took that abuse from husband. But now , things totally different, I do not think any normal Asian woman would take any kind of crap except those who are flightly passive as you said.

Another touchy subject for me.
I don't agree with spousal abuse at all.
But that doesn't mean that there is never ever ever a reason to hit a woman. If she talk about my mother or grandmother yall may as well send me to jail cuz I'll beat her retarded.

All that SAC education...and looka what you had to say...
why can't ya say...stick and stones can break my bones, but etc...

Mikki, you are totally out of order. And if you beat her ''retarded'' you deserve to go to jail!!!. Under no circumstances should a man beat a woman. If someone else was to beat your Mom or Grandmother ''retarded'' for the same reason, would you confront the individual?

Under no circumstances should a man beat up any body....

LOL.

No, when it comes to my grandmother -- it is more than words. Anyone in my life knows that if they want to see my ugly side that that would be the subject to do it. Maybe some of you weren't as close to your grandmother as I was but through everything I've been thru -- from being abandoned as an infant, stabbed, hospitalized, comatosed, shot, you name it the only person there was her. When she died was the last time I was home and had any contact with any of my family -- that's how deep that goes.

My wife knowing this -- would also know of the tremendous pain I went thru around that time in my life. She knows how long it took for me to recover from the loss as well. She also knows that my children and grandmother would be the catalyst for me to do just about anything. I don't suspect any of you know me, so sure I can see how what I said sounds ridiculously outrageous. But my feelings for my children and grandmother are real -- if a man, Mike Tyson, King Tut, or Big Foot says something the results are the same whether I survive or not, the thing is you don't think or care about whether you'll survive when someone triggers severe pain or anger -- but I can't turn those feelings on when a man offends me and off when a woman commits the same offence.

That's basically what I'm saying.

LOL.
No, when it comes to my grandmother -- it is more than words. Anyone in my life knows that if they want to see my ugly side that that would be the subject to do it. Maybe some of you weren't as close to your grandmother as I was but through everything I've been thru -- from being abandoned as an infant, stabbed, hospitalized, comatosed, shot, you name it the only person there was her. When she died was the last time I was home and had any contact with any of my family -- that's how deep that goes.
My wife knowing this -- would also know of the tremendous pain I went thru around that time in my life. She knows how long it took for me to recover from the loss as well. She also knows that my children and grandmother would be the catalyst for me to do just about anything. I don't suspect any of you know me, so sure I can see how what I said sounds ridiculously outrageous. But my feelings for my children and grandmother are real -- if a man, Mike Tyson, King Tut, or Big Foot says something the results are the same whether I survive or not, the thing is you don't think or care about whether you'll survive when someone triggers severe pain or anger -- but I can't turn those feelings on when a man offends me and off when a woman commits the same offence.
That's basically what I'm saying.

Man Rory has a worst off story than that...Rory, tell this man your story...
lol

black women wont deal with this crazy carrying on a la mikki...only a simple and semi-retarded white flighty woman. :shhh: :sarcastic :voodoo: :footmouth :taped2: :angel:

LOL.. you dont know them ghetto white gals just as dangerous as the ghetto black gals hey :hammer:

LOL.. you dont know them ghetto white gals just as dangerous as the ghetto black gals hey :hammer:

The key word is GHETTO.

Pharoah:

Which part of Kemp Road?? Anywhere near Sutton Street??

LOL.. you dont know them ghetto white gals just as dangerous as the ghetto black gals hey :hammer:
Even more so bey,must be aint never see a mad salt pond woman.:taped2:

You see that right. Domestic violence is all about power and control. Women don't always have to say anything "hurtful" to their abusive partner.

I agree with you a woman may not provolk it.I am only trying to put some logic to it.I speak from many obsevations I have witnessed,a woman may feel rhe only way to level da playing field is by radical emasculating verbalisation.How else can she match his physical prowess?Wat I say is WALK AWAY.