Why is it that there is always that one (or more than one) family member we have that is just plain triflin? I have a sister who only knows me when she wants money (which is all the time), and has trained her daughters in the art of begging too, such that they too only know you when they want money.

They go to great lengths to try to make you feel sorry for them enough to give them money to bail them out of their latest drama, or to pay their bills...meantime they dont wanna work, or they piss away their money on foolishness and then come to you crying begging for help.

Every other week they are about to be evicted, want you to stand bail for this one or that one, or some new catastrophe they desperately need help with.

And ofcoruse when they "borrow" money from you, you never see it again.

I hate it when relatives try to take advantage because they know they are family and they figure you will not want to leave your relative out in the cold.

You teach people how to treat you. Next thing you know she'll using your name for stuff.... :shhh:

I have a (half) sister like that....well...not exatcly. She was like that but she is working...hard, but sometimes she acts like WE ALL owe her something, and let's not talk about the husband. She provides but I think she is trying to use her "I got a job" platform as leverage. That's why I don't get too close with her.....before I end up becoming "her connection" in Nassau.

And ofcourse you have those relatives (who even though they een come from nothin) act like they are better than the rest of the family. Some of my relatives crack me up with how cute they get when a large group of the family is together at one time.

And then there are the ones, like my begging sister, who wants to isolate herself and accuse the family of being stuck up because they dont want to get mixed up in her trifling vibe.

I don't lend any family anything that I do expect to see back.
50 bucks here and there I can forget...
But...
Anything over that, I tend to keep close to my vest. Because to me when the items become substantial, you will hurt more when you give and do not see it anymore.

The only thing I give freely is advice...other than that, you are outa luck when you come to me.
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Unless of course it is real help, like bail out of jail or something like testifying as a witness in your murder trial...LOL..

I don't lend any family anything that I do expect to see back.
50 bucks here and there I can forget...
But...
Anything over that, I tend to keep close to my vest. Because to me when the items become substantial, you will hurt more when you give and do not see it anymore.
The only thing I give freely is advice...other than that, you are outa luck when you come to me.
:o

chile..and when they wanna borrow..they ask for huge sums of money at one time like you are the royal bank of stupidity.

chile..and when they wanna borrow..they ask for huge sums of money at one time like you are the royal bank of stupidity.


Yea man.....
I give, but the reason has to be damn good. Even when it is like that, I tend to give it and forget about it. Until I come back and ask for your help...then, I throw it up in your face.
:)

Chile, fear not because I am with thee in this particular situation...

I have a relative like this too she was real cool when we all were growing up, carefree, having fun etc, etc...

Then life hits us all bills rolling in, we need education and jobs, this particular one felt she was above both. Feels we owe her something, mind you she had the opportunity herself. Going from job to job, accepted to schools but chicken out, going from "pillow to post". Decides "asking" anyyone for money is a better occupation. I refuse to support anyone older than me who have two good hands, two good feet and a strong back. I didn't see no one helping me when I was up late and up early morning studying for my degree, hence my job and my profession.

Mind you the bible says that we are a blessing to blessed others and we can at times, however, God gave us common sense and He said "who don't work don't eat" (paraphase)!!!! :walk:

Yea man.....
I give, but the reason has to be damn good. Even when it is like that, I tend to give it and forget about it. Until I come back and ask for your help...then, I throw it up in your face.
:)


You should lend but lend to the ones who working with a steady job and you know they are reliable but just need a little boost. You should know the trustworlthy in your family by now.

Yea man.....
I give, but the reason has to be damn good. Even when it is like that, I tend to give it and forget about it. Until I come back and ask for your help...then, I throw it up in your face.
:)
Yup!

I am not going to let any family drive me into the poor house or Sandilands because of their unwillingness to at least try and help themselves. No sir! I can say 'no' in at least five different languages when it gets to a point of blatantly bloodsucking the life and resources out of me.

nation like you my sister feels i owe her something...and I keep telling her be cautious of your spending and watch your company...to be quite honest its very sad...because Im saving...I tell her all the time I have an exit strategy...im not just saving to look good and buy clothes im saving to be tight on paper and have something for myself and my family(im praying for my husband wherever he is!). generational wealth is the name of the game with me...education...a home...not shoes and clothes and hair. we are total different people...totally...sometimes I just want to walk away from it all...its just too much to stomach at times...I believe it borderline jealousy infact...I have lovely friends and friends are the family you choose for yourself

...and I also have a mother who feels because she birthed us she doesnt have to pay us back any money borrowed...and I have a stingy cheap father...and im so ashamed to say who he is because people presume..I set and he takes care of me...I can only laugh because when he was supposingly helping me he was half arsing me the whole time...thankfully my last name is what it is so that I can get some scholarship money from lyford cay and the bahamas govt come time for llb. ill just say he's dead and I never knew him.

im a very giving and loving person...but after being used im lilke hell no...sign this so this can go before court and there is recourse in the law...20 dollars is my maximum...unless im sowing a seed...people will use to if you let them...my thing is game recognize game...arse still selling...go out there and sell if you een wah save.

...20 dollars is my maximum...unless im sowing a seed...people will use to if you let them...my thing is game recognize game...arse still selling...go out there and sell if you een wah save.

lol lol..I hear ya gal, and you are right, people will use you if you let them. And the thing is, you tell them that hey man, I dont have it, or this is not a good time for me, and then they wanna turn around and get mad and offended and feel like you are lying to them. SMT

Been there done that, at least it was you'll sister my problems was my cousins. I solved that problem, loan them the money and they never came back, let me change that CAN'T come back, they have not paid of the first loan, so they keep their distance. I only see them if they pass in a car, I like that...I have one who ain been back in about 11 yrs.

Oh and switching gears, what about controlling, nosy in-laws!:taped2:

Oh and switching gears, what about controlling, nosy in-laws!:taped2:


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When you find out lemme know :cheers: