I want to have a serious discussion about this - why do you suppose that in the Bahamas we are so accepting of infidelity? There used to be a time when people thought they were being discreet but now people openly brag about sleeping with someone else's husband, etc.

Why is it that we dont seem to care much anymore about how such behaviour impacts our children, especially when relationships end up in messy seperations or divorces?

And what about the kids who are born outside of wedlock or outside a "committed" relationship? I know children who are torn up inside because their daddy is a married man and that man cant/wont acknowledge their child. I know its human nature but more and more we as Bahamians are exalting pleasure over responsibility and principle.

Then there are the women so desperate not to be alone or so materialistic that they will accept that their man is out there sleeping around "so long as he brings the money home to me." Its no wonder AIDS is taking down more and more of us at younger and younger ages.

I think that people who "accept" infidelity in society, are those who either are engaged in some type of infidelity, experienced it happen to them and did nothing about it, or have no conviction with regards to commitment.

There are many people who settle for whatever relationship they are in, and do not care about themselves and their children enough, to confront the issue.
There are also people who are so deep in "love" that their partner can do no wrong in their eyes. They spend their relationship in denial, and often do not realize that their partner does not hold them in the high esteem as they have for their partner.
Then there are people who are so materialistic, that they allow their relationship to be degraded by a cheating spouse. As long as they are getting material things they need/want, they could care less about who they are sharing their partners with. Not realizing the dangers they are placing themselves in.

More has to be done in the school, the church, and the home, to build self-esteem and good morals in our children, so that they grow into adults who appreciate commitment, and love themselves. Whether or not they choose to get married, or become involved in a serious relationship, they will treasure the value of commitment. We will then have less people volunteeringly engaging in a relationship with a committed person, and also less committed people seeking relationships outside of their primary commitment. It all falls back to good morals and self-esteem, in my opinion.

I think that people who "accept" infidelity in society, are those who either are engaged in some type of infidelity, experienced it happen to them and did nothing about it, or have no conviction with regards to commitment.
There are many people who settle for whatever relationship they are in, and do not care about themselves and their children enough, to confront the issue.
There are also people who are so deep in "love" that their partner can do no wrong in their eyes. They spend their relationship in denial, and often do not realize that their partner does not hold them in the high esteem as they have for their partner.
Then there are people who are so materialistic, that they allow their relationship to be degraded by a cheating spouse. As long as they are getting material things they need/want, they could care less about who they are sharing their partners with. Not realizing the dangers they are placing themselves in.
More has to be done in the school, the church, and the home, to build self-esteem and good morals in our children, so that they grow into adults who appreciate commitment, and love themselves. Whether or not they choose to get married, or become involved in a serious relationship, they will treasure the value of commitment. We will then have less people volunteeringly engaging in a relationship with a committed person, and also less committed people seeking relationships outside of their primary commitment. It all falls back to good morals and self-esteem, in my opinion.

Good points. Morals and self esteem are key. I think too that more people need to fully understand what they are doing when they get married. So many people dont take that covenant seriously and really dont understand or are willing to submit themselves to what that covenant is all about.

Good points. Morals and self esteem are key. I think too that more people need to fully understand what they are doing when they get married. So many people dont take that covenant seriously and really dont understand or are willing to submit themselves to what that covenant is all about.


Personally I think that the desensitization of Bahamians to infidelity is the fact that many children grow up in homes where infidelity is a fact of life. When you grow up in a home where mummy scheming on daddy and daddy scheming on mummy then you do not consider it to be such a bad thing. It is why racists bring up little racists.

It is also why I was so mortified the other day when I was bringing my step son home from school and these two women that I barely know started flirting with me. I can't have that.

Personally I think that the desensitization of Bahamians to infidelity is the fact that many children grow up in homes where infidelity is a fact of life. When you grow up in a home where mummy scheming on daddy and daddy scheming on mummy then you do not consider it to be such a bad thing. It is why racists bring up little racists.
It is also why I was so mortified the other day when I was bringing my step son home from school and these two women that I barely know started flirting with me. I can't have that.

Your are so right on the point about what goes on in the home. Its sad the life many women live in front of their children though - a different man in and out of her bedroom every other night, etc. And then she wants to try to half kill her daughter when she comes home pregnant.

Your are so right on the point about what goes on in the home. Its sad the life many women live in front of their children though - a different man in and out of her bedroom every other night, etc. And then she wants to try to half kill her daughter when she comes home pregnant.


In the worst cases these mothers have sometimes used sexuality in front of their children since birth and then get jealous when their daughters begin to attract some of the attention they once did. And some fathers actually encourage their friends to fraternize with their daughters. These children, especially these girls are in some really bad situations.

In the worst cases these mothers have sometimes used sexuality in front of their children since birth and then get jealous when their daughters begin to attract some of the attention they once did. And some fathers actually encourage their friends to fraternize with their daughters. These children, especially these girls are in some really bad situations.

Yup. These mothers, who most times are sleeping with these men for money, then turn around and teach their daughters that what should be priceless (their bodies) have a price tag they need to exploit for their benefit.

I know a woman who has five kids by five different men and has dudes in and out of her place for cash. All she does is beg men for money - its sickening. Now people want to blame men for leaving babies all over the place and ofcourse half the blame is theirs, but these women need to get their acts together too.

Its like some women have such low self esteem they feel the only thing they can accomplish is having a bunch of children - often for married men who will likely never be a part of her child's life.