Single mothers, especially in the urban areas and the grass-roots, need more protection than from abuse.

They need protection for their kids. They need to know, that their kids regardless will have a shot in this country.

They need the proper assistance, to make sure that they can work and take care of their kids, without fear of losing their jobs and or their kids to the streets.

We need to debate this, and wrap our heads around this, because single mothers, or overburdned mothers even with the father "present", still need to have the assurance that they will be protected, while they give maximum coverage to their kids.

single mothers would have been doing themselves a favour, had they been using protection in the first place.

single mothers would have been doing themselves a favour, had they been using protection in the first place.


You are simply horrid. LOL...
But there are many instances, where single mothers, choose not to stay with their significant others, or because of lack of education and understanding, got involved in a game they did not know how to live up to.

We should not punish people for comming up on hard times (no pun intended), or for that matter getting involved in the wrong path.

This is a problem, and tough love will not solve it. We need to attack this dilema from both sides. One with strong social awareness initiatives, and from the other end, with corrective social services that ease the burden of mistake makers.
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i completely agree. too many of our girls are crying out for affection, years ahead of the maturity needed to raise a child. that's where the social intervention and education programs can really have an impact. kids have to be taught that a baby isn't a status symbol.

Single mothers, especially in the urban areas and the grass-roots, need more protection than from abuse.
They need protection for their kids. They need to know, that their kids regardless will have a shot in this country.
They need the proper assistance, to make sure that they can work and take care of their kids, without fear of losing their jobs and or their kids to the streets.
We need to debate this, and wrap our heads around this, because single mothers, or overburdned mothers even with the father "present", still need to have the assurance that they will be protected, while they give maximum coverage to their kids.

They need proactive approachment, so that they do not end up as single parents: girls keep your legs closed, guys keep your 'little head' in your pants and do not think with it rather than your big head. If that fails, support the single parents and do everything possible to help the kids.

IMHO, the problem is we have yet reached a place where we are willing to have a frank discussion about sexuality.

Start talking about Bahmian sexuality and folks automatically think you are talking homosexuality and shout down all sensible discussion.

Our HIV infection rate is high becasue we won't teach abstience AND CONDOM USAGE! We won't speak out about high-risk sexual behaviour among heterosexual people.

There is room for discussion without vilifying anyone.

They need education! (In morality and self-restraint) Of course if they have 5 children before they are 21, perhaps education is a bit late - like closing the barn door after the horse has escaped.

single mothers would have been doing themselves a favour, had they been using protection in the first place.


Birth Control is not 100% and Condoms break....just ask my two year old how she got here. lol

I think when you hear the phrase single mother many people think wild, hott, fast teenage hussy with kid when many times that is not the case. I was 26 when I had my daughter.
Other single mothers are products of divorce, widows, they adopt kids (family and strangers), rape (including date rape), incest etc....its not always some kid who was having sex too soon and ended up pregnant.

Just my two cents.

They need education! (In morality and self-restraint) Of course if they have 5 children before they are 21, perhaps education is a bit late - like closing the barn door after the horse has escaped.

5 kids before 21... is this funny to you?

5 kids before 21... is this funny to you?

Not at all! It is tragic!

I am helping a young lady that has two kids (twins) - she is 17 (just!) She can't afford a cat! She is digging herself deeper and deeper into a hole she cannot escape from without help.

Not at all! It is tragic!
I am helping a young lady that has two kids (twins) - she is 17 (just!) She can't afford a cat! She is digging herself deeper and deeper into a hole she cannot escape from without help.

2 kids is not 5 kids and you dont help people by talking about what you do for them.

2 kids is not 5 kids
2 is enough is you can't afford 1.

and you dont help people by talking about what you do for them.
I did not give you details, no names, just answered your question.

Birth Control is not 100% and Condoms break....just ask my two year old how she got here. lol
I think when you hear the phrase single mother many people think wild, hott, fast teenage hussy with kid when many times that is not the case. I was 26 when I had my daughter.
Other single mothers are products of divorce, widows, they adopt kids (family and strangers), rape (including date rape), incest etc....its not always some kid who was having sex too soon and ended up pregnant.
Just my two cents.


you're absolutely right. at 26, you had a significant means of economic support and education already under your belt.

my flippant remark was 1. playing on YK2's words, and 2. directed at children between ages of 14-17 that start casually making babies without having an idea as to how to raise or support them.

Birth Control is not 100% and Condoms break....
You are right but the above mentioned "protections" are better than nothing which can equals 0% protection.

ill be 27 what is it tuesday...im not ready for children...but I am ready for more work. for a young girl 15 16 17 who are mothers...the difference between me(when I was there age) and them is that I had life outlook...I had insight into where I wanted to go and what I wanted to become and the vehicle that was gonna take me there: Education is key.